When I understood that, I finally became a feminist. Because we have small children (ages 6 and 3), one of us stays home.*** That was two years ago, and today we’ve never been happier, more in tune, closer, tighter, stronger. I wouldn’t recommend it for everyone, but I tell everyone it works for us. (We don’t like to use babysitters because it gives us a curfew; we’d rather go out unfettered than worry about turning into a pumpkin at midnight.) Going out alone to hooking up with others was an easy transition.What’s important is equality of opportunity, not outcome. People don’t divorce because they can’t stand sharing anymore; they divorce because they feel like they can’t share enough.I never forget that my wife is a whole person unto herself, a complete and dynamic individual, and though we are together, we’re not one.Here's where you can meet singles in Kentucky, Kentucky.There are thousands of active singles on Date looking to chat right now.
She didn’t present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul-searching about why the idea of my wife having sex with other men bothered me I came to a few conclusions: Monogamy meant I controlled her sexual expression, and, not to get all women’s-studies major about it, patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man’s fear that a woman with sexual agency is a woman he can’t control.I won’t explode with anger or seethe with resentment.I’ll tell her it’s a hot story and I’m glad she had fun.For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap.