If, though, we are saying that technology has changed the game in regards to how single young men and women approach one another, before that relationship is defined, then I have a lot of concern about technology.The ability to text or to tweet or to just write on someone’s wall, enable you to flirt and tease without there ever being a “what-exactly-is-this-relationship” moment.How do you know if a dating relationship is moving too quickly emotionally, or too quickly toward marriage?I am going to be real cautious about saying there is such a thing as “too fast.” What I would rather ask is this: What’s driving the speed?Within the covenant community of faith, there should be those around a person that can speak of their reputation and whether they are serious about growing in the Lord and putting sin to death in their life. Is there seriousness in this person to grow in their relationship and understanding with the Lord?Because what I have tragically found is that Christian singles hit an area of desperation, particularly young women, and they will go: “Yeah, he is a Christian, he comes to church.” And really what they’re saying is this guy comes to church a couple of times a month, but outside of attending a service, he doesn’t have a real seriousness about growing in his understanding of the Lord, growing in his understanding of the Bible, being a prayerful person, no vivication or mortification that can be spotted, and no one who really knows them enough to speak to the growth in their character.And I think those pieces are a much safer gauge than whether they highlight passages in their Bible and show up to service every week.Is there such a thing as “too fast” in Christian dating?
If the relationship is outpacing knowledge of character, reputation, and knowledge of godliness, then that is way too quick.This blog was written by Tony Reinke of Desiring God and originally posted here.Matt Chandler is a husband, father, lead pastor at The Village Church in Dallas, and author of several books, including podcast and answered ten questions on singleness and dating.We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).
But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.
In your experience, in what ways has technology changed the way young people date today? If we are talking about a young man and a young woman who are actively dating, who have defined their relationship, and who know they are in a growing and committed relationship with one another, then I think technology creates an avenue to encourage one another and to connect more frequently.