But Dr Bergman said: ‘When babies are smothered and suffer cot deaths, it is not because their mother is present.subscriber writes, “I forgave her, but it took me a whole year and I had to forgive her in small sums over the 12 months.During my lengthy divorce, my ex-wife claimed I was abusive, that she was ‘afraid for her safety,’ and tried to get ‘supervised visitation.’ None of it worked, because it wasn’t true, and because, as an educated professional I had enough money to spend six figures on an attorney. ) and being instructed to call me by my first name and not ‘dad.’ I grew tired of making phone calls that weren’t answered, or of being put on hold and the child not coming to the phone, and of cancelled visits.
I was often worried what would happen if she started to make untrue claims that I had (for example) abused the child.I paid those sums whenever I spoke to her and kept myself from rehashing the past.I paid them whenever I saw her with another man and refused self-pity.After I had calmed down, I tried again and contacted the ex.
I had hoped she would have calmed down and would be willing to work with me.
In far too many cases, the father is merely viewed as a source of income.