Even after having met with his doctor and researching the topic in every corner of the Internet, I continued struggling with accepting it. He was so patient that now, as we’re approaching our six-month mark, it feels like we've only been together for half of that time.I spent the first three months of our relationship slamming on the breaks and dodging the reality I would eventually have to fully commit or cut him loose.The HIV positive partner had to be reacting well to his medication, and the negative partner was not allowed to take any post-exposure or pre-exposure medication.Couples also had "to be having sex without condoms at least some of the time."The study concluded that in an estimated 16,400 occasions of sex in gay men, not a single HIV transmission was reported.After he kisses you, he asks you if you’d like to stay the night with him. When he puts his arm around you and you walk toward his place in Hackney, something leaves his lips that shocks you deeply and instills in you a sense of fear: “I’m HIV positive.”I can still remember the sound of the words rolling off his tongue.He spoke so confidently, like he had done it before. I had immediately decided I would spend the night — strictly cuddles only — then cut my losses and hope someone just as great came along.
Dear Reader, There is no way for a sexually active person to be 100 percent certain that s/he is protected from HIV infection or any other sexually transmitted infection (STI).The more I learned and the more I contemplated, I came to the conclusion there was virtually no risk at all.The HIV partner study (the study that changed the way I view HIV) studied 767 couples who had differing HIV statuses.Picture this: You’re on your fourth, maybe fifth, date with someone you think is phenomenal.