When you’re dating someone with grown kids, you’re going to have to understand that he still has to be the parent and sometimes this obligation will get in the way of any plans you may make.You might even have to have some relationship with them and interact with that part of his family more than you may be comfortable with.But, most likely, because he’s still emotionally reeling from the death of his relationship. It’s not that he didn’t care about her; it’s that he wasn’t ready for another commitment so soon after declaring his bachelorhood….I wrote about this extensively here, in a post called “When Do You Begin Dating Again After a Long-Term Relationship or Marriage? And you’re certainly not ready to love with reckless abandon. So, Sara, like most situations that stymie my readers, the answer isn’t as obvious as “dump him” or “go for it.” It depends on the man, the nature of his divorce, his emotional availability, and his ability to get in touch with himself.Divorcing clients are often lonely and stressed out, and they may be longing to meet someone new, feel desirable again, and just have fun.So, many clients decide that just one date can’t hurt.Also, it seems that about 40% of the men who state they are divorced are actually still going through the process. That stated, I have come up to some heavy objection from both family and friends – hence I’m here.
The real concern was whether this guy needed time and space after the demise of his marriage. Here are the three points I’d like you to take away from this blog post: A person who hides his separation online isn’t necessarily a bad person.The purpose is to determine exactly when the relationship began, whether it is sexual, whether any marital property has been transferred to the new friend, such as by gift, how much money was spent on dating this person, and whether the spouse has said anything that could be used against him or her at trial.Even if everything is on the up-and-up, the result is a lot of unnecessary aggravation and cost.With that said, you shouldn’t let these things deter you from pursuing him.
Here’s how you can keep your man and respect his adult children without feeling like an outsider.
All you can do is trust your gut and don’t second guess yourself every step of the way.