One of the first signs you’re in love with a commitment-phobe is easily spottable.The more you see one another, the more marked it becomes that all contact is in on your territory.I can help him.” If you have heard yourself saying the words “I can help him,” think of yourself as being trapped in the “wounded bird syndrome” in which your desire to nurse someone back to health is so strong that it clouds your logical thinking.Before getting too involved with a commitment phobic man consider asking yourself these 20 Questions to Finding New Love and Marriage.Many commitment phobic men are reliving a dysfunctional family role (in fact, some women are in this trap as well.) A dysfunctional family role As David M. People who appear to fit this bill may in some cases be playing a dysfunctional family role originally dubbed the by psychiatrist Sam Slipp.” Commitment Phobics. Whether he is stuck in a dysfunctional role or incapable of taking on the role of a trusted partner, a woman who dates such a man does so at her peril. The time you invest in the man whom you wish could be Mr. Right, is time you take away from finding a loving companion.Keep in mind that he may have a list of ideals—and you may well meet his 50 requirements. Instead think about going out with some fun girlfriends or settling for If you are willing to risk the heartbreak of a man who cannot commit just make certain he is worthy of your tears.
She is also the Founder of Single in Stilettos, which gives women the best dating advice & tips to help them meet, attract & keep the one.So it is not the fear of protecting Self from the other, rather it is protecting Other from Self; protecting others from who I am, or rather, what a I am.In a way, it is loving the Other, but not loving the Self.And then make a conscious effort to understand what is most important to you. Also watch his body language and his actions towards you.
If you are jumping through hoops for the commitment phobic man and thinking you can nurse him back to love – think again.
With time and patience, a commitment-phobe can be “fixed,” in a sense.