Dating site for white women who like black men


She tells me that she’s noticed many men choosing to date white, skinny women who are either blonde or brunette: “Some guys want candy on their arm.That’s partly down to a guy’s insecurity because they want approval.A Chinese friend tells me that she often gets messages from men telling her how much they love that she “looks like a cute Pokemon.” She finds that as offensive as people telling her they don’t want to date her because of her race.It’s similar to how Sarah feels: “I can understand people making cultural assumptions, but in a dating context it seems to be purely objective.Christian Rudder, the site’s co-founder, says: “OKCupid users are certainly no more open-minded than they used to be.If anything, racial bias has intensified a bit.” A close friend, Sarah, is living proof of this.Any non-white person who has online dated will know that race always comes into it.Even if you don’t explicitly mention it, your inbox will inevitably contain messages from people fetishising your colour.



Jo Barnett, a dating coach, tells me: “I don’t think it’s racism. You’ll get people who say, I don’t like red-heads, or I don’t like short girls, skinny girls… But when I’m coaching someone, within reason I’ll get them to look beyond that.” More than anything, she just thinks it’s a “shame” that people could be missing out on relationships because of their narrow viewpoints, or insecurities.It was from Username8493, who told her: “Sorry I’m not interested.I only do hot white girls.” She responded by telling him that she thought he was racist, and if he didn’t want to date her, he could have just not replied. “I’m polite and when I prefer to tell the truth to a person instead of ignoring them.It might have been down to a variety of reasons, but experience told her that it’s because he didn’t want to date an Indian girl - or, indeed, any girl who was radically different from himself. A new study by OKCupid suggests that such behaviour is more prevelant than ever.

The website looked at research from five years ago - which showed most people prefer to date within their own race - and compared it to current data. According to OKCupid, Asian and black men receive fewer messages than white men, while black women receive the fewest messages of all users.

You’ll also get the odd comment from racists who just want to tell you how much they don’t like your skin.