“I’m sorry I can’t drive you to your room.” A kiss goodnight. Normally I neither define myself as white, nor a woman, nor anything I consider to be superficially categorical. After some debate I had accepted but H had placed the bills in my purse without unfolding them.The events proceeding my first intimate encounter with H, a Thai national left me in a state of complete mental blankness. Now resting between my fingers, I realized H had not only given me funds for my ride home, he had covered the majority of my rent for the month. Confused I called a well educated, never been in the sex trade female Thai friend and relayed what had happened. She then explained a Thai custom I had previously heard about – the concept of a Thai man .As we lived in opposite ends of Bangkok and he wasn’t in a position to drive me home, he hailed me a taxi and opened the door for me to enter the vehicle alone. “Awwww…”, she said in English (or something to the effect of). As the months and years followed, I became further confused about my place in Thai society as a white, Foreign woman.But in the end, everything is still up for you to decide whether you are taking dating for the ride or you are looking forward to the bright future of a lasting union.For all of this, the best and simplest bit of advice remains—just be yourself!
CAUTION & ADVICE And speaking of caution, you are also advised to keep safe at all times when engaging in sexual activity of any sort, as Thailand claims to have one of the highest statistics of HIV-positive and AIDS cases in the past years.They are also very non-confrontational and not used to great outbursts of emotion, so it would be best to maintain a relaxed attitude concerning matters of the heart.FOR PROFESSIONALS AND EXPATS Professionals and expat executives need not worry about being too busy to pursue an active dating life, as a lot of options to meet new people are offered as well.They do not lose their tempers easily because their culture teaches them not to get stressed, not to show anger and not to get upset about things that cannot be controlled.
If you are tired of cold blooded Western men, you will be amazed of the sensitivity that Thai men can show.
Always keep in mind that with pleasure comes great responsibility, so just make a constant mental note to use protection at all times, most especially if you don’t know your partner that well just yet.