I've met more people through activity groups/clubs and it's always much less stressful (you're going for the club, not to find a date) and more rewarding (at the very least you make more friends). Keep in mind that many, if not a majority of the cute female faces you see on here are not looking for dates. JMHOMichaels_girl I'd say your response rate is slightly better than mine however your criteria for success is skewed, in my opinion.I define my success by the women I meet and the relationships that result. I've met several people here that I've dated for more than a couple of dates.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. I mean I write to at least 20 different women a night, 5 nights a week (100). Sorry if that sounds shallow..I need to be able to see sex appeal to go with the personality. You can't fail if you don't try..if you don't try you never know what you missed out on.I've been on here for months and not actually met a soul. If they say personality, I find that hard to believe. You may not meet the love of your life at a POF event, but you could very well make some great new friends.I have really enjoyed the forums and will not hesitate to contact someone if I enjoy their posts or threads. She was mentally abused and like to hit me alot to show that women are just strong as men. Met a few people off of here(male and female), will probably meet more as friends or whatever.I'm not sure if I'll find the love of my life on here, but I'm sure having fun. She was a big c ocktease and just frustrated me to death. You won't find the best catches unless you are lucky. It is a dating site but it's not the only way to find a date.
But it's still not a bad site for the price and there are some here who actually want to meet in person. I think the key is to be persistent and don't give up. there has to be an initial attraction but personality can dramatically enhance my perception of physical appearance. This is a visual medium; personality may indeed be more important to a woman than looks, but you've gotta be a hell of a writer to get it across well enough to eclipse appearance on a monitor screen. then fast forward, signed up back in jan 09 and met two nice people and one of them turned out to be a friend, still chatting with a few people outside of canada. whether i will meet him here or offline, doesn't really matter. I don't write to 100 people a week, there is no way I am interested in 100 people on here...I don't know if my success rate is good but I've been on here a year and been on four or maybe five dates. I only write to men who REALLY catch my eye...i have no interest in stringing along someone I have no interest in simply because I am bored...I am seeing someone right now and we are going on 5 months together.