I mention my fears because I believe the #1 tip for overcoming any addiction is motivation. They say that no addict ever makes the deep and lasting commitment to change until they hit rock bottom.Spend some time with addicts listening to their stories and you’ll hear about the failed attempts before their entire life unraveled into total loss.So, finally, the third tip is to recognize, embrace, and laugh about your ultimate humanity. Be prepared for setbacks and failures and just know that this is part of the journey of being a human.Remember that every hero’s journey is fraught with challenge, and that the easy way doesn’t make a very interesting story.I have felt permanently stressed, worried, very vulnerable and often humiliated (unable to pay for school trips, turning down social invitations etc).My self esteem has taken a battering and some days have been so hard.Fortunately for me, I had a long foundation of healthy sex before porn and I recognized what was happening to me and had a lot of tools available to stop. You also gain the capacity to create a different and distinct pleasure in your sex life that is entirely different from mere sexual release and the pleasure of orgasm. It is worth noting that watching porn even for an INSTANT will re-inforce the addictive neural nets.
I was already writing sex advice for couples at the time, considered an expert, and I was amazed at how quickly I got sucked in. And yet I didn’t fully appreciate what was happening to me until I was in bed with a woman and caught myself furiously trying to recall an exciting porn image in order to get hard. But the bottom line is that after I quit, I started getting laid again, and often. Here’s the other part you may not have heard: The rewards of giving up porn extend beyond making you more attractive to real women. the act of intentionally changing the mental patterns that rule our lives (and the root of breaking addictions and habits and forming new ones) is driven by attention.But, he's still affectionate and caring towards me.I would really appreciate it if anyone could respond and reassure me that something similar has happened to them, and that's it's down to anxiety/depression.Otherwise I can't believe that 20 years of marriage has come to an end.