Be honest with yourself about your needs and expectations. Talk about your family commitments, say if you smoke, and don’t say fitness is important to you if it’s not. Trying to impress someone by being less than truthful is unattractive. When we know our values, those things that are key in our lives, we find it easier to know what we want in a relationship. Don’t go into it imagining that you’ll find your lifelong partner immediately. Play your favourite music and have a glass in hand!Honesty, integrity, trust, laughter, adventure, open-mindedness … You just never know who you might meet and what they might open your mind to.The ‘G’ is for gesture, which in Smith’s example refers to body language.Here, however, you could interpret gesture as whether or not they show willing to meet up for a date.It doesn’t matter if you’re male or female – it’s the twenty-first century; embrace your freedom to propose another date.
It can be quite daunting at first, bigging yourself up whilst trying to avoid sounding like an egotistical salesman. DON’T do anything you’re not comfortable with” pointers, but they’re all fairly self- explanatory.We met thanks to Facebook – yes I know, such a cliché! I was grieving for so much: my marriage was over, my kids were growing up, I was getting older, I was midlife with few prospects and yet not ready for the nursing home.Getting to midlife had felt like a hard slog at times. I wanted to meet guys; I wanted fun, sex, dates, a bit of companionship, someone to go out for dinner and laugh with.‘F’ stands for frequency; how often are you chatting to this person online?