Internet dating spreadsheet


For every 10 messages I send on a dating site, I only receive one or two replies.That’s despite the fact that my messages are well thought out, mention common interests and ask questions.” But after several more people contacted me about the news item — including a former girlfriend who had no knowledge of my spreadsheet but apparently knows me all too well — I started to think that, more than just yet another Internet meme, such spreadsheets actually captured the zeitgeist of modern dating.I, like David Merkur, work in finance and stare at Excel for 12 hours a day.And not just at work: I have spreadsheets to track my finances, the books I’ve read, the countries I’ve visited and which combinations of friends might enjoy a dinner party together — that would be the very useful “friend interaction matrix,” responsible for many a successful social gathering whose participants were brought together, unwittingly, by spreadsheet.More to the point, online dating is a brutal game that happens to lend itself well to being systematized.Another entry reads: 'OK girl, but very jappy', And for a man who treats women so well he deems it appropriate to make a spreadsheet just to remember their names, home towns and first dates, it is perhaps unsurprising that he wrote how one stood him up, claiming a friend was in hospital.



But apparently it helps the man in demand stay "organized", he later revealed in a phone interview to Jezebel.For better or worse, those little Microsoft-created cells are how I organize my thoughts.Perhaps a writer would reflect on (and track his life through) a journal, or even fiction or poetry, but my medium is rows upon rows of data.Arranged in alphabetical order, Arielle, the woman he sent the email to, is top of the list.

Not concerned with playing it cool, he failed to remove his thoughts on her including: 'Hope to see again soon'.

The banker, named by the New York Post as David Merkur, went on a date with "Arielle", 26, a woman he met on Match.com, described in his spreadsheet as "very pretty, sweet and down to earth/great personality".