Non sexual touch while dating

In many cases, people who had a long affair with a married person angrily terminate their relationship upon finding that that their partner had taken another lover.In this regard, I have suggested the distinction between exclusiveness, which negatively establishes rigid boundaries, and uniqueness, which positively celebrates an ideal (Ben-Ze’ev & Goussinsky, 2008).Tactile physical affection is highly correlated with overall relationship and partner satisfaction.Moreover, conflict resolution is easier with more physical affection—conflicts are resolved more easily with increased amounts of hugging, cuddling/holding, and kissing on the lips (Gulledge et al., 2003).Indeed, because of the powerful emotional impact of touch, people consider interpersonal touch to be much more harassing than verbal behavior.The perception of touch as having a negative value depends on the specific part of the body that has been touched, and on the specific characteristics of the person who touches it (their gender, age, and relationship with the touched person).While romantic love involves both features, uniqueness is of greater significance, especially in the long term. This reminds me of the book, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.When another lover touches your lover, it violates the aspect of uniqueness as well as of exclusiveness. Some people feel love with quality time (doing stuff together), some people feel loved when they are physically touched, some people feel love when someone does something for them (acts of service), some people feel loved when someone appreciates them by giving them a gift, some people feel loved when someone compliments them.

In this case, jealousy (in addition to envy) may arise as the lover would lose the unique relationship she has with her partner.The man’s original choice was made long before he knew his lover, and there may be reasons that make it difficult to terminate that decision.The lover can therefore believe that her married lover does not really prefer his wife, and her attitude toward the wife may be closer to envy than to jealousy, which is generated when you lose some unique relationship with your significant other.Tactile stimulation plays a very important role in interpersonal communication, sexuality, and creating bonds between people.