"My lack of desire to be an evangelical Christian was a major reason we broke up." The fact that they didn't have sex, Ross said, "wasn't that big a deal" at the time."I really loved her and was eager to sacrifice sex for genuine companionship," he said.When I asked him why, he told me it was because he knew I was abstinent.At that time, I had already made a commitment to abstinence.People can have sexual urges and feelings while keeping their abstinence.We make choices about our behaviors to be abstinent or sexually active, and can still acknowledge, experience, and enjoy their sexuality.
There's a strong sense of shame associated not only with sex outside of marriage, but with sex in general."And even for those who have had sex, the most common number of sexual partners to have had in the past year is one."Not all virgins abstain from sex for religious reasons.But some teens (approximately 1 in 8, according to one ) do take chastity vows, sometimes out of religious or parental pressure.But when the boy I liked told me he was dumping me because I didn't want to have sex with him, it really hurt.