Online dating high standards
According to some dating experts, there’s a “picky” pandemic: women (and men, too, but to a lesser degree) with impossible-to-meet standards who wear their massive checklists on their sleeves. Look at the tales of divorce, infidelity, domestic violence, serially crappy relationships — not to mention uncomfortable weddings where you know something’s off and it probably won’t last. Yet they still, explicitly or reflexively, rule out (for example) short men, tall women or people with weird laughs.Who’s going stick by you to raise children, or when you get sick… That’s the characterstuff that only partially reveals itself on date #1.You need to look at what’s going to endure after the initial ‘thrill’ is gone.” Hasty rejections can lead to missed opportunities Gottlieb agrees.Lists I oppose are those dead-serious inventories that regulate whose on-line profile will live and whose will die. Right now, all over America, love-seekers are huddled over their Starbucks lattes, wondering how to extricate themselves from time-wasting chats with new acquaintances who don't pass the test. When I expressed my sympathies he actually responded, "I should have known not to get involved with her when I saw how far I'd strayed from my list." The Washington Post Sunday Magazine runs a popular weekly feature called Date Lab.
Dating gurus want you to make two lists: the things you insist on and the things you won't stand for. "This woman looked totally hot on line," I imagine one man thinking, "but 10 pounds over my weight limit is 10 pounds too many." Women's brains, too, are sifting silently through lists. Applicants are matched by age and stated interests.
She herself wound up falling for a guy who — had she not ultimately followed her own advice — she would have ruled out based on his profile photo alone. ” she initially thought, but, pushing past her prejudices, she found out the offending accessory was part of a story about his family that made her like him even more.