You can go online late at night and you can use your lunch hour to have coffee with the people you meet. The important point is that people who have kids learn pretty quickly that they need someone who also has kids, and guys are going to look for that, too.Just remember, if something terrible happened — let's say you had to go to a funeral — you'd find the time for it. Question from Denise: I'm in school, working and a mother of 7- and 15-year-olds. They want someone who has the capacity to understand children's needs, just like you do.So it's not easy, but if it's really important to both of you, and both of you work at it, it can have a good outcome.
I don't think that all men pick on the basis of age.On the other hand, if you went with a buddy, you could have fun even if there was nobody interesting there.So if you have a friend who will make any trip interesting no matter what, then give it a shot.And it's easy to grow apart because you're not sharing day-to-day life.
That said, I know people who had HUGE distances between them and survived that and ended up committed and together.
PS: I think day trips for singles are a good idea, or maybe even three days.