So, I would tell my parents I was going to the movies with my 'girlfriends' and then they would drive me there and drop me off.Then me, my girlfriends and the "guy" would then pair up, on our 'date.' It was all innocent...haha) parents have to make decisions for their teenagers that are going to make the teen very angry and feel like their parents don't love them, but once they are grown with their own children is when they will see their parents' wisdom and really appreciate the boundaries they had set in their lives.Good luck on this - I am definitely not looking foward to the teen years, if I could keep them babies forever I would!!Talk to him and ask him questions about school, what he likes to do, what does his family like to do together, etc.I also make it a point to know the parents of the boy so that as parents you are all on the same page. I also let her know that when or if she ever gets into a sticky situation CALL ME !!! Hopefully, that will be an understood standing rule. I told her as long as there was a group with an adult present or as a chaperone that would be the only way she should go out with any boys who still think respect was a one sided affair. You see just yesterday my 13 year old came home from school and asked to go on her first group date and I thought "here we go". If they didn't care about you being involved, they would have made up some story and not even told you what they were doing.
Like I told my daughter "i'm still waiting for the book i was suppose to get PARENTING 101 from the hospital " HA HA. Well I talked to my daughter and told her there will not be "DATING" until she's 16. The whole thing started with a movie, and then hanging out at each others houses while mom's were home, and our moms' were friends too.That doesn't mean they will be banned from talking to members of the other sex, or going out to do fun things with boys and girls - but it does mean that I will operate out of knowledge and giving them a safe and healthy adult life and not operating out of fear and trying to keep them happy in the moment as teenagers so often want to feel.Many times, I think (of course I'm not there yet so in ten years I may have to eat my words!You also get an idea of what kind of parents he has.