I've also learned there men actually interested in dating.While I've had my share of ridiculous, pointless come-ons, I've also met men interested in real dating.I've also been on several first dates that didn't lead to second dates with other men I've met on Tinder.On the flip side, many of the men are there for hook-ups.After a day of dry lectures and an evening of happy hours and conference socializing, we were tired, a bit tipsy, and slightly giddy.As we sipped wine and gazed out at the hotel's infinity pool and the lights of the city, we talked about how nice it would be have to have a date with us.Naturally, the topic turned to men and the atmosphere in the room began to resemble a slumber party. We sat side by side, swiping right and left, exclaiming with glee when we matched with someone. I had tried (and still use) other dating applications but the pool of men I had been meeting began to feel limited.In my late 40s, I never thought I would turn to a "hook-up" app for romance. After my marriage of 12 years ended, I spent most of the past decade building a successful career that allowed me the time and flexibility I needed to raise my son and assembling a close-knit circle of friends.
With no relatives nearby to watch my son, my dating life is restricted to Monday nights and alternate weekends.There is an ego boost to swiping right on someone you find attractive, and learning that they find you attractive as well.Especially for women who are middle-aged and older, it feels nice to be 'seen' at a time when society tells you that you are becoming "invisible" unless you look like Jennifer Lopez or Cindy Crawford.For every man seeking dating or romance on Tinder, there are probably 10 others seeking to hook-up, or to become friends with benefits.
While none of these options interest me, I certainly receive many offers.
In the past year, I've dated two different men that I met on Tinder. Our first date was in a left-wing cooperative bookstore and cafe.