If the other returns those feelings, then they become boyfriend and girlfriend.The relationship then proceeds as relationships between boyfriends and girlfriends do. At the point of kokuhaku is where we consider two people to begin dating.The Easterner will think the Westerner only wants to sleep with him/her and doesn’t want an actual relationship.Since we in the West use kissing as an expression of romantic intent and as a stepping stone to building a relationship, it can be especially confusing and frustrating.You will probably only bring friends of the same sex.
Things also move much more slowly than in the west.Westerners try not to say those words until they are sure of that feeling. But even telling someone “I like you” can be tricky.Saying those words makes the thing real and in the open.Initial dating, or the lead up to dating, always begins in a group.
You go out with mutual friends, or a group of your friends and a group of her friends together.
This isn’t a hard and fast rule, but more of a rule of thumb.