I don’t know what color my husband will be, or what culture he’ll be from, but I will say this.It’s amazing what I’ve learned in life when I’m open to more than one possibility. Have you ever tried sex with someone outside your race and found it went against popular stereotypes?Eventually, our vacation ended and he headed to the south of Brasil to start his new job. It had been almost six months since we had first met, and I certainly had changed.I returned to the city to continue living my life, and we kept in touch through semi-frequent Skype chats about our lives as Americans in Brasil. I had opened a different chapter in my dating life, one that included more interracial dating than relationships with Black men in Brasil.We yearn to embrace our sexual bliss, and yet have allowed what our mothers, grandmothers, aunties, and sister-friends have said about “them” keep us from pursuing something new.
While I know I wasn’t the first black woman he ever had sex with, he was the first White American that I had ever let into such an intimate space.Once, I was at a bar with friends when two white men approached me.One was a guy who was interested in talking to me, and the other was acting as his wingman.Did you enjoy yourself or did you want to 'go back home'?
Though racial microaggressions are felt by every marginalized group within the dating realm, I am building upon my own personal experiences with heterosexual, cisgender white men to offer suggestions on how to ease racial tensions that may arise in a white man/black woman pairing.
” After watching the sunset together, he invited me to meet up with them to salsa that evening.